Session 7 – Relationship Matters




In preparation for this week’s D-Group:
Memorize and Meditate on 


There is a famous saying, “no man is an island” that simply means, we cannot live without another human being. Ever since creation, it is God’s will that we shall have a “companion” (Gen 2:20-21)
However, in the sinful world of today, not all relationships are healthy and often they can become a destructive force towards our self. In this session, we will learn together on social relationship with one another. 

Accountability (10 Minutes)

As you reflect on the role of family of origin in the previous lesson, what steps must we take with God in dealing with it? 
Share your insight/s. 

Bible Discussion (20 Minutes)

1. Read Ecclesiastes 4:9-12. What important lesson can we learn from this passage about the importance of a healthy relationship? 
2. There are plenty of verses in the bible that speaks about the danger of mingling with the wrong crowd, verses such as:
As Adventists, we are told to “come out of Babylon” (Rev 18:4). However, in the life example of Jesus, He showed us the example of accepting everyone and mingling with “sinners”. What Biblical balance should we strike in accepting all the examples above as truth while not swinging to any of the extremes – on one end to become an exclusivist and not interested in mingling with those who are different from us, and the other end of having no moral boundaries with anyone in life?
3. Read Proverbs 12:26. How can we be honest with our friends while remaining a gentle loving person to them? What are our duties as a Christian in terms of our social relationship with others? 

Life Transformation (20 Minutes)

1. Evaluate your close relationships with the people around you – your marriage (if you are already married), your family, your friendship, etc. Examine each relationship and ask these questions:
a. Have these relationships influenced you in growing to a healthier self or destructive self? 
b. What are the strengths and growth that you have gained from these relationships? 
c. If you find some of the relationships have led you to an unhealthier self; or you are currently in a toxic, abusive relationship, what are some of the steps you need to take to fix it? 
2. If you are aware of anyone who is currently in an unhealthy/toxic relationship, what is our duty as a Christian in such a situation? 
3. What can you do as a Christian in providing a significant influence on the people around you in terms of healthier emotions, lifestyle and attitude? Discuss some practical applications that you can start doing after learning about this lesson. Put it in your devotional as a reminder. 

Intercessory Prayer (10 Minutes)

1. Pray that you can be a source of Christian influence to the people around you.
2. If you are aware of anyone who is currently in a toxic relationship, place them in your prayer (you need not mention a specific name, but rather just a general description friend, my classmates, etc) that God may provide them with a solution for it. 
3. Pray that your church can be a loving community where a healthier culture of relationship will be nurtured and developed. 


1. Interpersonal relationships can be complex. As a leader, avoid trying to provide a solution to all circumstances presented in the discussion. Rather, in the situation where a solution may not be available, admit that you may not have the full resources, but you strongly suggest them to consider seeking help from professionals. 
2. Share biblical examples of how relationships can have a strong influence on someone’s life. Stories such as Samson or King Ahab highlighted the evidence on how a bad life partner may lead to one’s destruction. Balance it with stories like Esther or Ruth. However, emphasize the fact that there is no perfect human relationship. But often, despite brokenness, God can use them for His glory. 
3. The practical goal of this session is not for everyone to “fix” their relationships but rather to be aware and understand that their interpersonal relationships influence their discipleship pathway. Help your group to have this perspective in mind as they explore the topic together. 

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