Session 4 – When You Feel Down



In preparation for this week’s D-Group:
Memorize and Meditate on: 
Revelation 21:4
Psalm 147:3


In the reality of the world today, not every event is bright and beautiful. Often, to the contrary, we often face situations that make us feel sad, disappointed, and discouraged. For some others, the world seems to be only about darkness and negativity and it seems that there is nothing good that can come out of the world we are living in.
However, as a Christian, how should we respond to sadness?
Is it biblical for us to express these emotions or are we expected to “rejoice in the LORD always” Philippians 4:4?


Accountability (10 Minutes)

Among your group members, share some of the gratitude which you had written down on your gratitude list from the last session meeting.

Bible Discussion (20 Minutes)

1. Read Psalm 42 and identify the struggle that the psalmist had. What are some of the feelings that the writer had expressed in the text? What does this psalm teach us about acknowledging sadness?

2. Read John 11:28-37 especially verse 34 and 35. Why did Jesus cry? How does this verse help us to embrace grieving and sadness as part of our Christian journey?

3. Read Ecclesiastes 3:1-14 and notice that the passage does not ignore the fact that there is a time for weeping. How do we know the appropriate time for laughter and sadness?

Life Transformation (20 Minutes)

1. Showing grief is a natural process for every human being. Even Jesus, who is God, shared moments of sadness with the people around Him. Too often we, as Christians, refuse to accept our grief, let alone let someone else grief. After learning the lesson today, what new approach should we take in dealing with grief?

2. There are many people in the church who may have been grieving in silence. Sometimes it may be because they are unsure if the church is willing to accept them when they are grieving. What do you think we, as a church, need to do to help people who are grieving in silence while remaining respectful toward each individual’s privacy?

3. What are some of the bible verses that had helped you find peace and comfort in the time of sadness? Share with your group members.

Intercessory Prayer (10 Minutes)

  1. Ask God to show you how to know that He cares for you especially in times of sadness and discouragement.
  2. Ask God to open your eyes to see those who are looking for comfort in your church and to give you wisdom on helping them.
  3. Express your gratitude to God for all the blessings that you have received to remind you of His blessings.



  1. Grieving is a natural process of coping that everyone will have to go through. However, if a person find that they are not able to get out of the cycle, they may require professional help. If you are not trained in counselling/psychotherapy, you can identify anyone in your group that seems to show a prolonged sense of despair. Continue to comfort them but at the same time advise them to seek medical/psychological assistance as needed. If such help is not directly available in your church, you may want to notify your pastor to help you find help.
  2. Excessive happiness and optimism is not a sign of being healthy disciples either. It may be a sign of another form of mental disorder known as mania. Therefore, the approach towards grieving is not so much extra happiness but rather acceptance, comfort and prayer.
  3. Group support is very important in helping people cope with loss and grief. However, some people prefer to grieve privately. We should provide this space for them as well. In the situation where you find your group members expressing the need to grieve in private, allow them to have such time while continuing to give them the assurance that you as a group will always be a phone call away when they need your support. Send them an encouraging text once in a while to let them know that you and your discipleship group care for them.

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